Letting Go

Melody Beattie, in her book “The Language of Letting Go”, writes:  “It’s important to let ourselves grieve as a passage between yesterday and tomorrow.  But we do not have to be controlled unduly by our grief, or our pain.”

In the past, nearly five years of my grieving journey, I have heard many, many people say to me that I just need to move on.  I disagree.  I believe that grief, in some form, will be with me for the remainder of my life.  My grief has softened.  I also choose to “move forward” rather than “move on” in this journey.  This slight change in wording opens up space to allow my grief to come along with me as I continue to live a life full of new experiences, new people, new opportunities while carrying with me relationships and memories from my life before this grief.