Mother's Day
Mother’s Day (Part 1)
In the past few weeks, as Mother’s Day 2019 approaches, I made the decision to work on plans for the day in an effort to make this firstMother’s Day without my daughter not quite so raw; hopefully. My son is out of town so neither of my children will be with me. I will spend time with my mom and am grateful for that. Over the past year, our family has had 3 significant “Mother”losses.
I don’t want to avoid the day, but rather want to include some things that will hopefully bring me joy. Fingers crossed.
I am particularly focused on how the day will unfold forEric and the boys. This will be the first Mother’s Day for Eric without his mom and his wife as well as the first for Aiden and Blake without their mom and one Grammy. This is also the first without my mother-in-law. Even with a fantastics support system, I suspect it will still be hard for all of us. This year of “firsts” is not like anything I have ever planned for. So the idea of giving myself permission to include some joyful things also reminds me to give space for things to unfold. This is code for creating some space for crying.
Ideally, my plan is to have an informal lunch including some of my favorites and also one of Jessica’s go- to party dips. As always, I look forward to being surrounded by the grandkids. We will make some cards for our loved ones and plant some flowers. Their energy usually distracts me when I need that and also brings a smile to my face and laughter to my ears. There will be time for reflection later.
